NISITIRI: Nina Vipande vya Maisha Vilivyopotea

Wanayopitia Mabinti katika Ubinti wao!

Maisha yangu yamejaa uchungu na aibu” ….. Batuli Mwinyiheri

“Ninatamani kuendelea na masomo lakini nashindwa kutokana na hali halisi ya maisha yangu na wazazi wangu.

Nina umri wa miaka 14, baba yangu mzazi alishafariki na mama yangu aliolewa na mwanaume mwingine. Mume wa mama yangu, yaani baba yangu anayenilea sasa amekuwa akinitesa japo kama hupitii ninachopitia huwezi kuamini kama ananitesa. Mbele za watu anaonekana kutujali mimi na mama lakini sivyo ilivyo katika maisha halisi tunayoishi nyumbani kama familia.

Mama yangu amekuwa dhaifu kiafya kwa muda wa miaka miwili sasa. Anasumbuliwa na mgongo kutokana na kupigwa na baba. Mimi ndiye nimekuwa nikimtunza mama hasa nyakati za mchana ambapo baba anakuwa amekwenda shambani.

Nimeshavunja ungo. Nikiwa katika siku zangu huwa ninapata maumivu makali sana ya tumbo, mgongo, kiuno na kichwa. Katika kipindi kama hiki, siwezi kuvuka kizingiti cha mlango kwa sababu damu inachuruzika sana na sina kitu cha kuweka ili isipitilize.

Nguo zangu zimechakaa zote hadi sasa navaa nguo za shule hata ninapokuwa nyumbani nikimuuguza mama.

Mimi ndiye nafanya kila kazi nyumbani. Naamka saa kumi na moja asubuhi ili nikateke maji, nirudi nichanje kuni, nisafishe uwanda wa nyumba, niandae kifungua kinywa. Nimuogeshe na kuhakikisha amekula vizuri.

Nikitaka chochote kutoka kwa baba hata kama ni kwa ajili ya chakula anasema ni lazima nilipie. Nikimwambia sina hela anafanya tendo la ndoa na mimi kwanza ndipo anipe ninachohitaji. Wakati mwingine ananifanyia hivyo na asinipe ninachohitaji. Mara nyingi ananiambia inabidi nimsaidie mama yangu kwani alimuoa kwa ajili hiyo. Sijawahi kumwambia mama kwani najua ataumia sana. Naona kabisa maisha yangu yanavyopotea.

Nakushukuru sana nimeongea na wewe. Naomba unisaidie mama yangu apone. Akipona nitafurahi sana. Mama akipona najua nitarudi shule. Lakini pia naomba unisaidie nipate vitambaa vya kuweka nikiwa kwenye siku zangu.”

Project I.A.A.M

 

Project I.A.A.M seminar at Kenton Secondary School, Dar es Salaam

 
Adolescence is an age of transformation when children under-go rapid physical, cognitive, emotional, sexual and psychological changes. It is also an age of opportunity, when the brain undergoes a burst of development and the potential for learning is enormous.

During adolescence girls face many challenges with immediate consequences than boys.

For Adolescent girls, educational attainment, sexual and reproductive transitions are closely related in that an unwanted pregnancy or any early marriage can derail a school career pre-maturely.

While boys typically marry later than girls and do not face the risks and responsibilities associated with pregnancy; their sexual maturation and behavior do not have the potential to interfere with their school progress in the same way.

Project I.A.A.M provides not only different types of trainings but also one on one conversation aiming at supporting adolescent girls in managing their mindset as they cross this very sensitive and challenging phase of life – from childhood to adulthood.
The talk covers areas such as:
1. Understanding adolescence and its challenges
2. Mindset Management
3. Exploring identity and improve self-esteem
4. Goal Setting

Being a girl comes along with a number of vulnerabilities. Therefore, providing adolescent girls with adolescence challenges management skills helps them develop their critical thinking, build their self-esteem, communicate effectively, and solve problems in a cooperative way.

Our Key Message:
• Adolescence is a time of change.
• Adolescent behavior is linked to physical and mental development.
• Changes can be exciting, but also challenging, and sometimes even scary.
• The skills and resources that one has can make it easier to go through these changes.
• Support is available for young people with questions or experiencing any difficulty regarding their adolescence life stage.

Everyone should understand that, during this phase of life education is very important because it:
a. heightens a girl’s social status,
b. minimize her social risks
c. delays her assumption of adult roles
d. Cultivate a capacity of critical thinking and independent decision making that can reshape her future pathway radically and profoundly – with cascading benefits over her life time.

This is program is for supporting mainly girls hence parents, caretakers and the society at large are invited to share their views as the girls are not living in their own island. Girls need our support on managing their adolescence phase of life so that they can become fruitful to themselves, their families and the society.

We are going to be sharing about how to manage adolescence challenges on this site and in our social media accounts on every Monday so do not miss to check us. You can ask questions or contribute. Let us share the knowledge of what an adolescent girl goes through and what skill she needs to manage the challenges.

GOODBYE FIRST QUARTER 2019

As we closing the first quarter of year 2019, here at Lorna Dadi Foundation we would like to announce about the launching of our NISITIRI Campaign for the year 2019